Meet Stag & Vixen couple Susie*, 36, and Shane*, 38, who go under the Twitter handle So-called because apart from indulging in extra-circular bedroom activities, they’re otherwise a long-term, straight, married couple with kids and regular jobs, whose friends have no idea what they get up to. The Bull, the wife or both dominate the encounter and the cuckold gets his sexual thrill from the masochistic shame and humiliation. These insults allude to the fact that in some cuckhold scenarios there’s an element of ritualized humiliation, submissiveness, jealousy or denial that comes into play. In political circles, it’s a barb that the alt-right throw at lefty men as in, “You snowflake cuck,” before the left cluck back and call them “Cuckservatives.” You may have heard the term “cuck” being bandied about of late. However you could be mistaken for thinking that as the definition of a cuckold is a man who enjoys the act of his wife being pleasured by another male. The Vixen, or, as they are known in some circles, Hotwife, has sex with the encouragement of her husband or boyfriend with the Bull (that’s the guy who is servicing her).Īnother scenario is that the Vixen has sex with a Bull outside of the couple’s shared abode, then comes home and recounts all the details in a blow-by-blow description to turn the Stag on.
The Stag either joins in or watches as a voyeur. These guys get their rocks off watching their wife or girlfriend having sex with other dudes. Here's another argument: there's some pretty interesting research on female arousal that jives with my experience and says adding expectations to fulfill can seriously put on the sexual arousal "brakes.You may be surprised to know that “cuckold porn” was the second most searched porn term after “youth,” according to the authors of the book “ A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships.” While wife sharing may be a commonly held fantasy, in reality, it’s a sexual scenario that is a step too far for most men. "Hotspousing" sounds like Sriracha or firefighting, so I would propose "hotmating"-both mates feeling hotter as the result of some "mating competition" frisson. And that's not what it feels like at all.
So: can we change the language, please? "Hotwifing" makes him the agent and purpose of my sexual experiences. And I would like to think that that symmetry is the result of the 18 years of effort we've put into good communication and getting over cultural hang ups. But the inverse is true too: I have the impulse to claim him, I make him tell me what he's done and thought, and we share the thrill. He has the impulse to "claim" me before and after I like the thrill of his making me tell him what I've done and thought. My spouse gets off on me getting excited for a potential date. I write to take issue with the term "hotwifing" as inaccurate and stuck in antifeminist/heteronormative thinking. And we are getting off on each other and the reality and possibility of sleeping with others, FWB and strangers. Following a seven year "dormancy" of our non-monogamous shenanigans (and, largely, our own marital sex life), spring has sprung. Pre-kids, we each did some fooling around/sleeping with friends, separately and together, exploring kinks along the way. I've been with my husband 16 years, married for eight, open the whole time (starting as an idealistic long distance college kid relationship, we placed our earnest emphasis on trust, honesty and loyalty over monogamy-everything since has flowed from that).
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